Everyone has had a time in their life where they have wanted to create a spark, and have that someone that they have always been chasing notice them. A lot of the time, they try everything but end up sabotaging their own efforts. The reason for this is quite simply that people over-think things too much and make decisions that aren’t right for the situation.

In order for a girl to be interested in you, she has to have already noticed you. Whether it be that you have been introduced once, that the two of you have a mutual friend, or even if she noticed you as you walked into a bar. For a girl to be interested in you, she has to know that you exist, and there has to be something that gives her a reason to be interested in you.

Mind games – Good or Bad?

Mind games are a great way of creating interest. As long as people don’t take them too far, mind games can take you from being a friend, to being a boyfriend.

Essentially, mind games are like playing hard to get, and the easiest way of playing hard to get is too seem busy. Seeming busy creates mystery and in some cases, means the woman wants what she can’t have.

Wanting what you can’t have.

Playing mind games is one of the most effective ways to make someone want what they can’t have, and this can work for you in two ways. The first, making someone want you/think about you more than they did, and second, making the ‘catch’ even greater than it would have been before those mind games were put into play. This can be achieved in many ways, and ultimately your goal is to make that person think about a certain action, to the point where the woman over-analyzes it, because this means she’s thinking about you.

How can you do this?

Seem busy. Ask her out somewhere and then cancel a day or two before you two are supposed to meet. She won’t like that she has been cancelled on and will subconsciously want to see you more, purely because she wants what she can’t have. The next time you arrange to meet, actually meet her and go from there. The only difference will be that she will be keener than if you hadn’t cancelled on her and instead met up with her from the start.

There are ways to make a girl interested in you without mind games. If you know you can impress her and sweep her off her feet as you are then you don’t have to play mind games at all. At the end of the day, if you can be yourself and make her interested, then that’s all you need.

Many guys can’t overcome a deep-seated fear that stops them from walking up to amazing women and striking up a conversation. It’s a definite roadblock. I mean, how are you ever going to get together with a woman when you never say word one to her?

Very few women in this world are going to come up to you. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, but I’m saying you shouldn’t count on it.

Approach Women tips and secrets. I’m here to tell you that you have the ability to approach women if you just take some time to look at what is holding you back. At the heart of any man’s reluctance to walk up to a woman there lies a common fear – it’s the fear of rejection. This is a very natural fear. But it is also one that you can conquer.

Imagine the worst

Before you go out, I want you to take a few minutes in a quiet place and imagine the worst-case possible scenario involving rejection. I want you to visualize how you approach women and then have the woman either yell at your or push you or humiliate you or whatever you imagine is the worst thing she can do.

Then I want you to imagine your response. I want you to imagine yourself responding in a way that everyone else in the bar would say, “Wow, that guy is cool. She was stupid to turn him down.” Now, this always involves maintaining your cool. It never involves yelling back or acting angry – that only makes you look bad. Now visualize this a few times.

Go Practice

Now you are ready to go out and Approach Women. Remember your role as the “cool guy getting rejected” and make it your goal to approach a woman with the opportunity to practice playing this role. What you will quickly find are two things: that any rejection you receive will not be as bad as your imagined worst-case scenario and that you actually walk away feeling good about the way you handled the rejection. Do this quite a few times until your cool guy act is completely natural.

Try to Get Rejected

Now is the time for you to think about how – without being a jerk – you can actually get rejected and to put it into practice. So, go out with the intent that you are going to approach women and get rejected. Do this at least one night and then carefully measure the woman’s responses and how you respond. Your cool guy act should fall naturally into place and at this point, if you have been doing everything above – you will notice something else:

The Fear of Rejection has lost its power. You should be able to approach women now much easier. By facing your fears head on and dealing with them directly, you’ll have been able to conquer your fear of rejection.

I’m not saying that it’s gone forever. It still takes conscious effort and practice, but if you follow the steps above, you should be set.